I was emailing with my friend Jane, and she mentioned "reclaiming" parts of ourselves as we were talking about me starting to paint again. There are a few layers of this reclamation. First is the part where after my last BIG concussion in 2015 my visual processing, and hand eye coordination were greatly affected, as well as my sense of color (back in my college days I could mix a color for a perfect match...once I punched a wall and had to do a color match after I patched the hole!...yeah, wasn't one of my better moments). And granted, I was rusty anyway cuz after my graduation back in 95 I had done very little art.
Which brings us to the part where I pretty much stopped doing art after I graduated. Pre-college I always had a sketch book handy. Always. If I was staying somewhere other than my house, a sketch book was just as important as a clean change of underwear. But then I went to college. And there were a couple of things that happened to rob me of the joy, and pleasure of making art...the making art because I couldn't not make art. One of those factors was that my primary instructor, Trina, insisted that all of my Art had to be "ripping your heart out and throwing it on the canvas." For her, Art always had to be a capital "A"...art wasn't for fun, it was for making a statement. After a time that becomes rather emotionally exhausting, and definitely robs one of the fun of making art.
Ah, that reminds me of the time in one of her classes that the assignment was to "just have fun" with the linocut as the purpose was to "get used to using the medium", "don't worry about making Art". Just have fun. So, going back to my favorite style of humor I carved out an outhouse with a starry sky in the background. And she flipped out. In front of the entire class she was crying, and yelling at me, "How could you Lu!" (I still can't fucking stand it when people call me "Lu") "I can't believe this Lu!" "How could you do this TRITE bullshit, why didn't you add a WINDMILL in the background to make it even more TRITE!" On and on it went. What happened to "just have fun"? Even as I write this I feel my traps contracting, pulling my shoulders to my ears.
The other part of that experience was that my first relationship was with her (sure I'd gotten drunk and made out with boys a few times, some of them more than once, but I was never in anything one would consider a relationship), and she was the first woman I was ever with. And that relationship consisted of secrecy (think small ND town in the 90s), and a whole lot of power and control fuckery. I got in trouble if I spent any time with friends, if I wasn't at home with her, I was to be at the studio making Art. If I did happen to go with friends (because out the other side of her mouth I was supposed to hang out with my friends so people wouldn't suspect we were in a relationship), and I didn't invite her I was an asshole who didn't love her. And if I did happen to spend time with friends rather than the studio I would literally be told I was going to get a C or a D for my A work because I wasn't making Art when not with her. Then there was all the yelling and screaming, and being blamed for everything wrong in her life.
So, anyway, art and Art became a chore. And it became a constant rehashing of trauma so I could make Art instead of art as per Trina's edict. At one point I did start therapy, but my therapist instead of helping me work through/process my trauma just shamed me for shutting down when I got overwhelmed by my trauma and couldn't speak, or would say helpful things like "I don't think you know what a flashback is" when I would bring it up. So for 5 years I dug deep into my trauma without the support I needed, thus re-traumatizing myself over and over again, and forgetting what it was like to just enjoy line work, color play, and and shapes. Forgetting the joy of creating something from a blank canvas and an assortment of colors. Forgetting how to just let the creativity flow, and let Art come out of me because it needed to, not because I had to to make the grade.
Two years ago yesterday (as per fb) I pulled my oil paints and pallet out after having had a conversation with my barber
about painting (particularly about how I had stopped after college even though oil painting was my favorite medium), and how I needed to reclaim (yes, that very word) Art/art from Trina. That bitch stole it, and it was time for me to take it back. I started by just doing some random color play on the canvas-nothing particularly...well, anything but color play. And I picked up acrylics (just cuz its less messy and toxic for indoor painting) and tried to do some (terrible) self-portraits. After those in particular, I knew I wouldn't be making any of the pieces that I actually was proud of during my college days. But then as I approached my last gender affirming surgery I started feeling true inspiration, something I hadn't experienced since the mid 90s. And then I started painting and what came out surprised me. So much of what I thought I had lost skill wise was coming back. As I reclaim (or perhaps just claim) my body, I am finding myself reclaiming my skills, and my inspiration...and my joy in making A/art.
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